"Owning your BS"
By Jaymi Lorraine
Have you ever experienced a lack of accountability? Where someone might not have been able to own their sh*t and has blamed or pushed their own stuff onto you? I’m sure many of us have encountered this at one point in our life!
In this blog, I am going to be exploring how we can tap into our own internal accountability tools that can help you to “own your BS”. Self- awareness is at the heart of taking ownership. So are you ready?
There have been times in my life where I have looked back on a situation and my response to it and have got a little niggle of guilt in my stomach, as I felt I could have responded a little better.
When I was younger I would experience, that uncomfortable gut feeling in my stomach, where I knew that my responses to certain situations could have done with some work. Sometimes we can look back and think, “Oh, I don’t know about that one, I’m not that proud of how I reacted there.” Ever had this feeling?
Often that one reactive moment causes a ripple effect of more awkward and uncomfortable moments and why? Because, we are not owning our sh*t!
What does owning our BS have to do with it? Well, great question! When we become more self-aware we are able to come from a place of introspection and kindness, rather than coming at a situation in a defensive, offended or attacking manner. It also helps you to understand what BS in an interaction is yours to own, and what is the other person’s. Which can make life a lot easier, especially if you are prone to conflict.
I used to attract a lot of conflict in my life, as a result, my life felt more turbulent and never felt calm – it was every man for himself! Then, I realised I needed to look at my own behaviour and how I showed up in these interactions and maybe, just maybe, I could defuse tense situations, or even stop inviting them into my life altogether.
What you can do to make sure that you are taking ownership of your BS
There are a few strategies that I have come up with that have helped me to rewire my thought processes. Here are four things that I do on the daily:
1. Meditate between 5-10 minutes a day. (If you don’t have the time, then you don’t have a life, let’s be real).
2. Move your body! (Go for a walk, go to the gym or do some yoga, whatever you have to do to get that butt moving!)
3. Get out in nature! (I like to “kill two birds” here and walk around my beautiful neighbourhood); and
4. Write three little ‘ah-ha’ moments into your journal at the end of each day. (This rewires your internal thought processes and with practice, can help you in the moment, to pause and think before you make your move).
Seriously, my life has changed just from implementing these simple tools and there are always amazing things that I am learning about myself when I do this practice. So why not try it for 7 days and let me know how you go!
Take care and remember – “own that sh*t!”